Well to start you need to understand what chivalry is. It isn't just looking upon women as a weaker sex and babying them every chance you get. No, chivalry started way before our time and was popularized in Medieval days when Knights roamed the European lands. To be a Knight meant certain things were expected of you. You were required to be merciful, protect the weak, be brave and courageous, fair to all, and show gentleness and graciousness to all women. Knights would create codes of conduct and follow them very seriously so as to not bring dishonor to themselves. The code of Knighthood and their chivalrous conduct was geared around being a good and honorable person.
In today's society we view chivalry as a way of treating women when in fact its actually just good manners. There are a few rules that apply solely to women but most of them are something that most of our parents taught us when we were younger about how to act.
Some of the ways to be chivalrous today include:
-Holding the door open
-Pulling out a chair
-Ordering her food
-Giving her your jacket or just helping her with her jacket on and off
-Carrying something heavy for her
-Giving her your umbrella
-Giving her your cab
-Pumping her gas
-Standing up when a woman enters a room to join your company
-Letting a woman go first when entering a room
-Paying on a date
-Sending her flowers
-Call when you say you will
-Give up your seat for a woman or the elderly who is standing
-Removing your hat indoors
-Offer her a tissue (your handkerchief) if she needs one.
-Never spitting in her presence
-When walking, walk on the side towards the road, between her and traffic
-Pulling out a chair
-Ordering her food
-Giving her your jacket or just helping her with her jacket on and off
-Carrying something heavy for her
-Giving her your umbrella
-Giving her your cab
-Pumping her gas
-Standing up when a woman enters a room to join your company
-Letting a woman go first when entering a room
-Paying on a date
-Sending her flowers
-Call when you say you will
-Give up your seat for a woman or the elderly who is standing
-Removing your hat indoors
-Offer her a tissue (your handkerchief) if she needs one.
-Never spitting in her presence
-When walking, walk on the side towards the road, between her and traffic
Ladies, we understand that over the last 100 years or so you have fought very hard for your equality. That doesn't mean you can't allow us to take a masculine role and be gentleman. Allowing us to take a masculine role in no way shape or form implies that we take a dominant role and that you are forced into a weaker one. It just means you allow us to make that courteous gesture. Allow us to act like gentlemen without repercussion of getting called a jerk for not treating you as equals. Besides, as Jason put it, "When this girl wouldn't let me open her door or pull her chair out for her it was a huge turn off!"
I would hold a door open for a man just as I would a woman. When a guy does that for you it may not just mean he's thinking you as weaker or unable to perform tasks for yourself. It just means he is being respectful to women and placing another before himself. It has zero undertones of viewing you as the weaker sex. So don't let chivalry die. Embrace it. Allow a guy the chance to be a gentleman. We can't do it without you.